Hyper at Bedtime? Try These 5 Expert-Backed Hacks for Calm Kids

Does your child fight sleep, get extra silly, or somehow seem wired and cranky at the same time? That’s not just a quirky personality trait—it’s overtiredness. And once it kicks in, bedtime gets way harder.

Okay, be honest. How does bedtime actually go at your house?

Do you lovingly tuck your little one in, kiss their forehead, and quietly walk out as they peacefully drift off to sleep?

Or… does bedtime turn into a full-blown circus, where your child suddenly has the energy of a pro athlete, running laps, giggling uncontrollably, and insisting they are definitely not tired despite it being way past bedtime?

And in those moments, you might even start second-guessing yourself. Wait… maybe they really aren’t tired yet?

Sound familiar? You’re not alone. In fact, this isn’t just your child being “wild” at night—it’s biology. When kids get overtired, their bodies release more energy instead of winding down, making it even harder for them to settle.

But don’t worry—I’ve got you covered. Today, I’m sharing five things to help kids sleep when overtiredness takes over. These expert-backed strategies will help your little one calm down before bed—so you can finally have a smooth, stress-free evening. Let’s dive in!

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But First - Why Do Kids Get Hyper at Bedtime?

Let’s start with the big question—why does your child seem to get more hyper at night when they should be winding down?

The answer? Overtiredness.

Most parents assume that the more exhausted a child gets, the easier they’ll fall asleep. But often, it’s the opposite. When kids consistently don’t get enough rest and stay up past their natural sleep window, their body releases cortisol and adrenaline—the same stress hormones that kick in when we’re in danger or under pressure.

So instead of winding down, your child gets a burst of energy at exactly the wrong time.

That’s why they might seem calm at 6:30 but turn into a whirlwind of activity by 8:30. Their body has shifted into a mini “fight or flight” mode, making it much harder to settle down.

But don’t worry—there are simple, science-backed things to help kids sleep before overtiredness takes over. Let’s talk about five proven strategies to help calm kids at bedtime, so they can actually feel sleepy when it’s time to rest.

5 Proven Ways to Get A Calm Kid Before Bed

1. Stick to an Early, Consistent Bedtime

The key to calm kids at bedtime is catching them before the hyperactivity kicks in.

For kids under 6, the sweet spot for sleep is between 6:30 - 7:45 PM.

How to find the right bedtime:

Pick a bedtime before 8 PM.
Keep a Sleep Log for 5 nights: Track sleepy signs, how long it takes them to fall asleep, and how well they sleep.
If bedtime is still a struggle after 5 nights, adjust it by moving it 15 minutes earlier and try again.

2. Create a Predictable Wind-Down Routine

Kids thrive on routine—and a predictable bedtime routine signals to their bodies that it’s time to sleep. The more consistent you are with the same routine every night, the less likely they are to stall, and the easier it’ll be for them to fall asleep.

Here are a few things to keep in mind for the perfect wind-down routine:

The routine doesn’t need to be longer than 15-20 minutes (unless you want it to be!).
Dim the lights in their room—bright lights can signal their brain to stay awake.
Stick to the same bedtime order each night (Example: bath → pajamas → story → snuggles → lights out).
NO screens at least an hour before bed—blue light blocks melatonin, the sleep hormone.

3. Use Calming Breathing & Sensory Tricks

If your child is already wired, calming breathing techniques and sensory tricks can help reset their nervous system and prepare them for sleep.

Candle Breath – Have them pretend to blow out a candle by taking a deep breath in, then slowly exhaling.
Lion’s Breath – Exhale while making a silly “roar” noise—this helps release tension and promotes relaxation.

Other sensory tricks that can help calm the body:

Play slow, rhythmic music (like lullabies or white noise) to set a peaceful atmosphere.
Offer gentle back rubs or foot squeezes to help them unwind.
Use a weighted blanket or a heavy stuffed animal for added comfort and calm.

4. Get Energy Out EARLIER in the Day

If your child is hyper at bedtime, it often means they didn’t burn off enough energy earlier in the day. To prevent that nighttime surge of energy, aim to get them moving during the day. This could include:

Playing outside (running, biking, climbing)
Roughhousing with siblings
Taking a family walk after dinner to transition from active play to calm

By making time for physical activity earlier in the day, you’ll help ensure that bedtime isn’t a struggle and your child can wind down more easily.

5. Set Firm but Loving Bedtime Boundaries

Hyper kids love to stall, but giving in only keeps the cycle going. Setting clear, loving boundaries helps your child feel secure and know exactly what to expect. Here are some effective bedtime boundaries to put in place:

Use a bedtime chart so they know exactly what’s coming next.
Praise good behavior at bedtime, and calmly ignore the less desirable behavior.
Have a clear end to bedtime—think of it as the "grand finale" (Example: "After we snuggle for 2 minutes, it's time to sleep").
No negotiating (“just one more story” quickly turns into five).

🚫 Common mistake: Giving extra attention when your child is hyper. If they learn that acting hyper leads to more attention, they’ll keep doing it to stall bedtime.

By sticking to these boundaries, you’ll help create a calmer, more predictable bedtime routine.

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So, the key to a calm, easy bedtime (and a calm kid)?

✅ Prevent overtiredness.

✅ Stick to a predictable routine.

✅ Use calming techniques.

✅ Get energy out early in the day.

✅ Hold firm but loving bedtime boundaries.